{"id":18229,"date":"2026-03-31T18:08:07","date_gmt":"2026-03-31T16:08:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mediadorconflictos.com\/?p=18229"},"modified":"2026-03-31T19:54:37","modified_gmt":"2026-03-31T17:54:37","slug":"the-conflict-you-do-not-face-also-decides-for-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mediadorconflictos.com\/en\/the-conflict-you-do-not-face-also-decides-for-you\/","title":{"rendered":"The conflict you do not face also decides for you"},"content":{"rendered":"<h3><strong>The conflict you do not face also decides for you<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>A few days ago, my mother, Gregoria, shared with her three children a phrase that caught my attention. I wrote it down.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cInaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage.\u201d Author: Dale Carnegie, American writer and lecturer born in 1888.<\/p>\n<p>A few days have passed, and, in some way, this idea has stayed with me.<br \/>\nTo the point of inviting me today to write these lines.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>The silent cost of not acting<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>There are moments in the year that invite us to pause. Holy Week is one of them.<\/p>\n<p>Public holidays, less noise, more time\u2026 and, sometimes, more mental space than usual. And it is precisely in this space where those conflicts we have been avoiding for a long time tend to appear.<\/p>\n<p>Pending conversations.<br \/>\nDecisions that we keep postponing.<br \/>\nTense relationships that remain in an uncomfortable balance.<\/p>\n<p>Because the problem is not always the conflict itself.<br \/>\nOften, the problem is not facing it.<\/p>\n<p>In my experience as a conflict mediator -in the family, neighbourhood, professional and business fields- a pattern constantly repeats itself: not acting does not eliminate the conflict, it transforms it.<\/p>\n<p>It turns it into:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Emotional distance<\/li>\n<li>Accumulated discomfort<\/li>\n<li>Misinterpretations<\/li>\n<li>Chronic conflicts<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>And, above all, into an internal feeling that is difficult to explain.<\/p>\n<p>Because you cannot have a peaceful life if your mind is at war with yourself.<\/p>\n<p>Avoiding conflict may seem like a way of protecting oneself, but in the medium and long term it usually generates more wear and tear than facing it.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>It is not a lack of motivation, it is a lack of purpose<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Many people do not act because they feel that \u201cit is not the right time\u201d, that \u201cit will pass\u201d or that they \u201cdo not know how to do it\u201d.<\/p>\n<p>But in reality, it is rarely a problem of motivation.<\/p>\n<p>It is a problem of purpose.<\/p>\n<p>Why do you want to resolve this conflict?<br \/>\nWhat would you gain if you faced it?<br \/>\nWhat are you losing by not doing it?<\/p>\n<p>When the purpose becomes clear -improving a relationship, regaining peace of mind, setting boundaries or closing a chapter- action stops being a burden and becomes a decision.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Holy Week: a good time to pause and reflect<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>This period can be an opportunity.<\/p>\n<p>Not necessarily to act immediately, but to do something just as important: to become aware.<\/p>\n<p>Perhaps these days you can ask yourself:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>What conflict am I avoiding?<\/li>\n<li>How long have I been postponing it?<\/li>\n<li>What is preventing me from facing it?<\/li>\n<li>What would happen if I took the first step?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>It is not about solving everything in a few days.<br \/>\nIt is about stopping looking the other way.<\/p>\n<p>And perhaps, after these days, starting to make decisions.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Mediation as a first step<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Not all conflicts can -nor should- be managed alone.<\/p>\n<p>Mediation is an effective, confidential and flexible tool that allows conflicts to be addressed in a structured way, with the support of a neutral professional.<\/p>\n<p>As a conflict mediator, I work with people who:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Want to improve communication<\/li>\n<li>Need to unblock an entrenched situation<\/li>\n<li>Seek practical solutions without directly resorting to legal proceedings<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Whether in family, neighbourhood, professional conflicts or between business partners, mediation allows the conflict to be transformed into an opportunity for change.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Acting is also a skill<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Facing a conflict does not mean doing it perfectly.<br \/>\nIt means starting.<\/p>\n<p>Because acting does not guarantee an ideal result,<br \/>\nbut not acting guarantees that nothing changes.<\/p>\n<p>And along this path, there is an important idea to remember:<br \/>\npeace of mind -and, in part, happiness- is not only a consequence. It is also a choice\u2026 and a skill.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Contact<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>If you find yourself in a moment of blockage or have a conflict you do not know how to address, I can help you.<\/p>\n<p>Daniel Sererols Villal\u00f3n<br \/>\nLawyer and conflict mediator<\/p>\n<p><strong>daniel@mediadorconflictos.com<br \/>\nTel. 661 463 306<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The conflict you do not face also decides for you A few days ago, my mother, Gregoria, shared with her three children a phrase that caught my attention. I wrote it down. \u201cInaction breeds doubt and fear. 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